Saturday, May 24, 2008

In Memory of Maria...

Since the tragic death of Maria Sue Chapman on May 21, 2008, there has been over $100,000 donated in her honor to Shaohannah's Hope. To learn more about how you can help honor this little girl and help orphans around the world please click here.

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Tragedy...

I know that I don't personally "know" the Chapman family, but their family's loss has me in tears this morning. I was so moved by the Chapman's story when we went to a concert about 6 years ago. I sat and cried as Steven shared his 2 adoptive daughters' stories. They went on an adopted a third daughter from China, Maria.

The Chapman family has been a huge encouragement for so many adoptive families and changed the life of so many orphans around the world. Not only in the area of adoption, but their dedication to the children still in orphanages and foster care. We were blessed last year with a grant from their charitable organization, Shaohannah's Hope, when bringing home Anna. We have again applied to help with the expenses of Elli's adoption. I may not know them personally, but they have personally touched our family.

Please pray for this family as they are grieving the loss of their 5-year old daughter, Maria Sue. I cannot imagine what they must be feeling or the long road ahead of this family. There is no doubt that they love their children and are truly dedicated parents. Only God knows and only God can bring peace and comfort to this wonderful family.

Sending prayers to the Chapman Family,
Rodney, Marcy, Carter, Jacob, Parker & Anna Mei

With Hope
By Steven Curtis Chapman
1 Thess. 4:13-14 / Heb. 6:9, 10:23
This is not at all how
We thought it was supposed to be
We had so many plans for you
We had so many dreams
And now you've gone away
And left us with the memories of your smile
And nothing we can say
And nothing we can do
Can take away the pain
The pain of losing you, but ...

We can cry with hope
We can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end, oh no
And we can grieve with hope
'Cause we believe with hope
(There's a place by God's grace)
There's a place where we'll see your face again
We'll see your face again

And never have I known
Anything so hard to understand
And never have I questioned more
The wisdom of God's plan
But through the cloud of tears
I see the Father's smile and say well done
And I imagine you
Where you wanted most to be
Seeing all your dreams come true
'Cause now you're home
And now you're free, and ...

We have this hope as an anchor
'Cause we believe that everything
God promised us is true, so ...

We wait with hope
And we ache with hope
We hold on with hope
We let go with hope

Thursday, May 15, 2008

China Earthquake...

I am sure that you have heard about the earthquake that occurred in China on Monday. The sheer devastation is just unimaginable to me. I have been so fortunate in my life to have never experienced anything so tragic. The pictures, stories, videos of those in China is just heartbreaking. The loss of lives, the number of people still missing is horrible.

Thankfully, there are many people in place who are intervening during this tragedy. Half the Sky is in action right now. They are checking on all the orphanages as well as the foster families that were/could be affected by not only the earthquake that hit on Monday, but the over 3,300, yes thirty-three hundred, aftershocks some registering 6.0. Just as the ice storm that hit China in early 2008, Half the Sky is there helping the orphanages get the needed supplies. You can select the links and read the updates from China. There are orphanages are structurally damaged as well as in need of formula, diapers, bedding, etc. They have also set up a fund to help with their efforts.
If you can make a donation, please do, but above all of that, please pray for the people of China.
Praying for God's comfort & peace in China,
Rodney, Marcy, Carter, Jacob, Parker & Anna Mei

Mother's Day...

As expected, Mother's Day was chaotic, but hey, I didn't expect it to be anything less. We got up and did the usual Sunday morning routine to make it to church late :-) During the service, all my kids were given a flower to bring to me. Being the typical cry baby, I cried when Parker first walked up to me and told me that he loved me as he handed me a little red carnation. Trying to swallow the tears, I finally decided to just give it up and let it go. I am truly one of those people that I used to laugh at...my mother's dream is finally coming true!!

Even though there are days that picking up that same toy that I just picked up an hour before gets very, very tiring, I do love being a mom. I would have never imagined having 4 children and another on the way...but I am so happy that I do. It just goes to prove that God's plan for our lives far exceed what we could have planned ourselves.

Anna, Carter, Me, Parker, Elli, Jacob

One Very, Very Proud Mom,
Marcy

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Happy Mother's Day...

For 11 years now, I have been able to call myself a mother. The first year brought my first son. The years following brought many happy moments, joyful memories and a few more babies. Every year, I have tried to make sure I had a picture with my kids on Mother’s Day. Last year, I sat on my front porch swing after church to take a picture with my three beautiful blonde boys holding a picture of my daughter that waited for me in China. She held my heart even though she didn’t know it. Anna was just as much mine as the three that surrounded me. The day was filled with many tears as I so desperately wished all my children were with me.

This year, I am so blessed to have my little Anna with me on Mother’s Day. She is no longer a picture for me to hold, but in the flesh. She stands at my feet, swatting at my legs, gesturing for me to pick her up. She dances to the tunes of Backyardigans, hides under her bed with her feet sticking out as a game, brings me cereal boxes to let me know she has managed to open the pantry, kisses the mirror at the sight of herself, tries to put on her brothers’ shirts, plays in the cabinets, loves baths, climbs on her daddy, jumps on beds, mimics everything she sees us do, drags out the clothes in her drawers, comes running when she hears me yell for dinner, gets jealous when I hold Parker, thinks she runs the house, feels so cuddly in her little pajamas, hair falls right over her eyes, waddles when she runs, breaths heavy when she is asleep, makes you giggle when she does, plays kitchen in her room, feeds you food she magically gets out of the TV., understands “the look”, ignores “the look”, happy to be playing at home, loves when brothers come home from school, stands at the door when she see daddy in the backyard, squeals when grandparents come, loves to be center of attention, knows she usually gets her way, rotten as they come, and couldn’t imagine her not here.

This Mother’s Day, I will have my four with me on the front porch swing…holding another picture. A picture of another daughter that now pulls my heart. I will hold my four here just as close as I can believing that next year, she will be here with us fighting for attention, playing with her sister, messing up faster than I can clean, getting into mischief, tattling on her brothers and not wanting to sit still for next year’s picture…but believe me, there will be a picture.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Blessed mother of four & praying for blessing number five,
Marcy

Thursday, April 10, 2008

I just got an e-mail from the Cohen family!! Their schedule got switched and they actually went to the orphanage today.....soooooooo, I have great news about Elli and PICTURES! I have included a excerpt from her e-mail where she describes Elli, as well as the slide show below...she is going to tower over Anna! I guess Anna will get Elli's hand me downs ;-)

Thank you so much to the Cohen Family!!!

Marcy,

Our schedule got switched around and we went to Qingyuan today! Elli is very shy, but she is a big, healthy looking girl. She was afraid to be near us except in the arms of her auntie, whom she seemed to be quite attached to. We lured her into pictures with a lollipop. She ran back to her seat, where they were doing an art project - so we know she can run! We left her room and went to the one next door and she came to peek at us and then wave goodbye and and blow kisses to us. She is precious!






Well, obviously, she is gorgeous, which we knew, but she is healthy and appears to be well taken care of, which is a huge blessing. I am glad that she is attached to a caretaker. Kids need that and it helps with the bonding process following the adoption. I called Rodney and told him about the update and how much she has changed...he will be home shortly ;-)

Apparently she loves doing art, so I now know what to include in her suitcase for the trip...lots of "artsy stuff!" Harris, you are going to have an art partner! I don't know if you noticed or not, but the auntie that is holding her has on a shirt with "Half the Sky" logo on the side. This is a great organization that does so much for the children in orphanages throughout China. They were so active in the recent winter storms ensuring that the children had heat, food, water, diapers, clothes, medicine, etc. They have a program at Elli's orphanage. They are great!
The kids have all looked at the pictures and think she is so cute. Parker is a little obsessed with the fact that she has a lollipop, what kind is it, do you think she dropped it, etc. You know sugar is a very important subject to the 3 year old. Anna, she is more concerned with the flowers in the pictures. That is her new favorite word, so while I am pointing out Elli, she is pointing out flowers!

So, so, so thrilled to find out that Elli is doing well. Updates are always bitter sweet. Happy she is being taken care of, but then the feeling of desperation to get her home deepens.

Sending love & hugs to that chubby cheeked princess, Elli,
Rodney, Marcy, Carter, Jacob, Parker & Anna Mei

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Up and Running...

First, I want to thank everyone that prayed for Anna. She has done so good. The third and fourth day were pretty rough for her, but she has really bounced back. Her swelling is nearly gone and the drooling/mouth drainage has stopped. We still have some yucky nose stuff, but that is fading. We are so thankful for how she came through everything and how she has really healed quite nicely. She is one determined little girl.


Anna is feeling and looking much better

Anna woke up on the first Monday (day 3) very fussy. She couldn't be satisfied. She would cry for a toy, get the toy, throw the toy and then lay back on my chest. She still wasn't really eating any "food", just drinking. On Monday, she really didn't want to drink. Thankfully, Parker spent Sunday night with my sister-in-law, Thank You Shanda, so I was able to sit for hours just holding her. She slept some, but mainly, just wanted to be held. We stayed downstairs in the living room, it was quite, cozy, and we just snuggled all day.
On Tuesday, it was pretty much more of the same, but better. She was still very fussy, but she really wanted to play with Parker. She would play for a bit, then wanted to be held. She was drinking better, but you could just tell she didn't feel good. She didn't mind me putting her down, as long as I was close by. I was still pretty nervous about her hitting her mouth on something or Parker hitting her mouth. I took the lightsabers and hid them, but you know, when you are 3 and totally obsessed with StarWars, everything is a lightsaber! I stayed very close as they played to make sure no "dueling" occurred.

After Wednesday, things started getting much better. She began eating soft food much better. I know her appetite wasn't completely back yet, because she would only eat small amounts. But, at least she was trying to eat. Her mouth still looked very "sore" to me. I could only get small glimpse inside her mouth and I wasn't about to force a look. She still had quite a bit of drainage from her nose, which resulted in lots of dried drainage in her nostril. I tried to clean it all very gently because she acted as though it was pretty sensitive. Since we obviously can't clean her mouth or brush her teeth, her breath is pretty severe!

Parker tells us on a daily basis, multiple times, that "Sissy stinks!"

Even stinky she's just gorgeous!

I had been feeding Anna some baby foods, which she ate pretty well. Towards the end of the week, I began to puree whatever it was we were eating. She started eating that much, much better. I was initially afraid to do it as it might have too much salt or spices and in her sensitive/raw mouth, it would hurt. Well, by the end of the week, it was on! She started eating like Anna....pigging out!

Anna is still in her NoNos (arm restraints). But now, she really doesn't pay them any attention. I will take them off to give her arms a break or to clean them, they get nasty pretty quick, and she will stick her arms out straight to help me put them back on...no fussing. She has managed to take them off multiple times. On Sunday, she took one off and it took me over 15 minutes to find it. She has thrown it in front of the toy box in her room and then dumped toys on it. Not until I started picking up the toys did I finally discover the restraint. When I found it she started grinning and ran out of the room....this has played out multiple times as a game.


This is for you all (grandmas and aunts) who ask, "Why doesn't she have on socks?" or "Where are her socks...her feet are cold."

I promise I put socks on her feet...it just doesn't last very long!

On Monday, we went back to Louisville for her 1 week post-op visit. The surgeon told us he was happy with how it has healed and come together. He removed the two little "knots" in the stitches on her side and told us he wanted us back next week. He said that likely we can loose the arm restraints then if she continues to heal well. Maybe then we can start regular foods too. I hope so because she chases Parker with her mouth open and hands outstretched. He had a little bowl of Fruit Loops and she was chasing him around. He stopped and told her, "No Anna, your mouth is cut". Of course, that didn't stop her, she just screamed and continued the chase. Don't worry, she isn't being tortured, I got her and gave her a snack too, it just wasn't Fruit Loops, it was baby food fruit :-)


While I am obsessing about her hitting her mouth, she is jumping off the bottom step!


Can you see the mischievousness now?!?

Carter and Jacob are on Spring Break this week, so needless to say, our house has been hopping. They are really good with Anna, but she has learned the art of "messing" quite well. Of course being the apprentice of Parker, she was destined to become a master. So the day has finally came that I hear, "Momma, get Parker and Anna out of our room!" Or the famous excuse of "I didn't do it, Anna and Parker did." They told me it would never happen, but I knew better. Anna has definitely come into her own right as a toddler. She is sassy, spoiled and as rotten as they come. You put her and Parker together, who has a long list of adjectives we could use to describe him, and you have yourself a destructive duo! There isn't a room in the house untouched by these two...definitely partners in crime. What am I gonna do with 3 toddlers?!?!


"So what can we get into next?"

A couple that is adopting from Elli's orphanage is in China now. They just received their daughter on Monday and are hopefully traveling to the orphanage for a visit on Friday. They are going to try to get us an update and pictures of Elli. Hopefully I will have them on Saturday and of course I will share. I am sure that she has really grown quite a bit since the last pictures were taken and will probably look totally different. I am anxious to hear about her and to see her growth.

Happy to have my sweet girl almost back to normal & sending love to Elli,
Rodney, Marcy, Carter, Jacob, Parker & Anna Mei